Not My Choice
[Lyrics & Music – Micke Wennborn]
You walked in like a prayer
With a mysterious smile
Had him leaning your way
Like it made sense for a while
You told him sweet little truths
With a knife behind your back
He saw the cracks in the glass
But he loved you too hard for that
Then you changed the whole scene
When the truth got loud
Turned your tears into smoke
And your guilt into doubt
You said he was the one
Who made you drift away
But he was reaching for you
Now the final echo
is what he has to say;
Not my choice
Not my choice
You broke it
Then you blamed my voice
Not my choice
Not my choice
I won’t wear your shadow
I won’t fold and rejoice
He found the proof you were hiding
And the call on your phone
All the nights you were gone
Then you came back acting cold
You said he made you lie
Like his heart was to blame
But the damage was yours
And it filled up the room
Now you twist every word
Like he should take the fall
But he knows what he knows
And he knows he deserve
More than that at from love
You can point your hand at him
Try to make him the chain
But he was loving the truth
While you fed him your shame
He said;
Not my choice
Not my choice
You broke it
Then you blamed my voice
Not my choice
Not my choice
I won’t wear your shadow
I won’t fold and rejoice
He won’t give up on what’s true
Even if you try to twist it all
You can rewrite every day
But you can’t erase your lies
He won’t chase your excuses
He won’t beg for your lies
If the truth has to stand alone
Then he’ll stand by it’s side
So he said;
Not my choice
Not my choice
You broke it
Then you blamed my voice
Not my choice
Not my choice
I won’t wear your shadow
I will fight for the truth
I won’t back down
You made your choice
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Micke Wennborn – keyboards, programming, guitars, backing vocals
Mats Nilsson – bass
Liv Fredheim – lead vocals
Göran Edman – backing vocals
Arranged, recorded,engineered and produced by Micke Wennborn in Bääsboda Studio
Artwork by KHI
Release Date: Upcoming 2026
© & ℗ Northern Light Music & Art AB
© Artwork KHI
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About The Song
Not My Choice is a song about responsibility.
At its core, the song rejects a familiar pattern that often appears at the end of difficult relationships: the rewriting of events in a way that shifts responsibility away from the person who made the choices and onto the person who suffered the consequences.
Throughout the lyrics, the narrator describes a gradual awakening. What began as love, trust and hope slowly becomes something else. Facts are questioned. Memories are reframed. Decisions are explained away. The truth becomes increasingly difficult to recognize beneath competing versions of the same story.
The repeated phrase “Not My Choice” serves as the song’s central declaration. It is not a plea, an accusation or a demand. It is a boundary. A refusal to accept ownership of actions, decisions and betrayals that originated elsewhere.
Unlike songs built around revenge, Not My Choice does not focus on punishment. The narrator is not trying to hurt the other person. He is trying to reclaim his own understanding of what happened.
The recurring references to proof, hidden calls, shifting narratives and blame all reinforce the same idea: truth remains truth even when people attempt to reinterpret it.
At its heart, Not My Choice is a song about refusing to carry someone else’s guilt. About standing firm when the easiest option would be to accept a version of events that is not your own.
Sometimes the hardest words in a broken relationship are not “I love you” or “goodbye.”
Sometimes they are:
“That was not my choice.”
Om Låten
Not My Choice handlar om ansvar.
I centrum står ett mönster som ofta uppstår när relationer går sönder: försöket att skriva om historien på ett sätt som flyttar ansvaret från den som fattade besluten till den som fick leva med konsekvenserna.
Genom hela låten beskriver berättaren ett gradvis uppvaknande. Det som började som kärlek, tillit och framtidstro förvandlas sakta till något annat. Fakta ifrågasätts. Minnen omtolkas. Beslut förklaras bort. Sanningen blir allt svårare att urskilja bland olika versioner av samma berättelse.
Den återkommande frasen “Not My Choice” fungerar som låtens centrala deklaration. Det är inte en bön. Inte heller en hämndakt eller en anklagelse. Det är en gränsdragning. Ett vägran att ta ansvar för handlingar, val och svek som någon annan stod för.
Till skillnad från låtar som kretsar kring vedergällning handlar Not My Choice inte om att skada den andra personen. Den handlar om att återta rätten till sin egen verklighetsbeskrivning.
Referenserna till bevis, telefonsamtal, omskrivna historier och skuldförskjutning pekar alla mot samma slutsats: sanningen förblir sann även när människor försöker ge den ett nytt namn.
I grunden handlar Not My Choice om att vägra bära någon annans skuld. Om att stå fast när det enklaste vore att acceptera en berättelse som inte är ens egen.
Ibland är de viktigaste orden efter ett uppbrott inte:
“Jag älskar dig.”
eller:
“Farväl.”
Ibland är de:
“Det där var inte mitt val.”
Laulu kohta
“Not My Choice” räägib vastutusest.
Selle laulu keskmes on muster, mis ilmneb sageli siis, kui suhted lagunevad: püüd kirjutada lugu ümber viisil, mis nihutab vastutuse sellelt, kes tegi valikud, sellele, kes pidi nende tagajärgedega elama.
Läbi kogu laulu kirjeldab jutustaja järkjärgulist ärkamist. See, mis algas armastuse, usalduse ja lootusena tulevikule, muutub tasapisi millekski muuks. Fakte seatakse kahtluse alla. Mälestusi tõlgendatakse ümber. Otsuseid põhjendatakse tagantjärele teisiti. Tõde muutub üha raskemini äratuntavaks erinevate versioonide vahel samast loost.
Korduv fraas „Not My Choice“ on laulu keskne avaldus. See ei ole palve. See ei ole kättemaks ega süüdistus. See on piir. Keeldumine võtta vastutust tegude, otsuste ja reetmiste eest, mille eest vastutas keegi teine.
Erinevalt lauludest, mis keskenduvad kättemaksule, ei räägi „Not My Choice“ teisele inimesele haiget tegemisest. See räägib õigusest taastada oma arusaam sellest, mis tegelikult juhtus.
Viited tõenditele, telefonikõnedele, ümber kirjutatud lugudele ja süü nihutamisele toetavad kõik sama mõtet: tõde jääb tõeks ka siis, kui inimesed püüavad seda teisiti nimetada või ümber tõlgendada.
Selle laulu keskmes on keeldumine kanda kellegi teise süüd. Oskus jääda kindlaks hetkel, mil kõige lihtsam oleks nõustuda looga, mis ei ole sinu oma.
Mõnikord ei ole kõige raskemad sõnad katkises suhtes:
„Ma armastan sind.“
või:
„Hüvasti.“
Mõnikord on need:
„See ei olnud minu valik.“